‘MID-LIFE CRISES’ — A loss or a gain?

Midlife crises are periods of self-reflection and transition, empowering us to confront our identity and self-confidence. We grapple with the realities of ageing, mortality, and life choices. When embraced, this introspective journey can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our lives, putting us in the driver’s seat of our transformation. This usually happens …

MIGRATION – from Places and Relationships — do we need it?

Moving away, literally or metaphorically, can be vital. Migration from relationships can be a positive and necessary step when they no longer serve their purpose, become toxic, or diverge from one’s values or aspirations. While it may be painful, it creates space for healthier connections and personal growth. Migration is vital when seeking prospects, better …

COMFORT ZONE — a haven to be Smashed or Endured?

A comfort zone is a place of familiarity or solace away from anxiety, awkwardness, or frustration. It is a predictable and safe zone, a sanctuary away from intimidation, qualms, and unpleasant shocks and surprises. It’s a space that encourages tranquillity, well-being, gratification, and physical respite. People engage in familiar activities or behaviours within this zone, …

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SKELETONS IN THE CLOSET – Do We Bury Them Or Feed Them?

  ‘Skeletons in the closet’ is a conversational phrase and idiom used to describe an undisclosed fact about someone that would damage the person’s perception if revealed. In other words, it is a discreditable, damaging, shameful or embarrassing fact that someone wishes to keep a secret. The phrase was coined in England in the nineteenth …

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BEING A BLACK SHEEP – Good or Bad?

A person seen differently as an outsider who doesn’t adapt to the potentials or norms in society or family is called a Black Sheep. The term carries a negative implication, suggesting the person is embarrassed and disapproved. However, being a black sheep can also imply distinctiveness, individuality and resistance to conventionality. Should we call such a …

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HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH — How much do we need?

How much is enough depends on one’s perspective and values. It’s about balancing needs and desires and understanding what truly brings satisfaction. Needs can be material, emotional, or both, as can ambitions and goals. Ultimately, ‘enough’ is a profoundly personal and situational concept. It’s not about having everything but about appreciating what you have. It’s …

UNHAPPINESS … Do we choose it, OR is it obsessive?

    Unhappiness or sadness is one of the seven universal emotions experienced by us resulting from loss and failure. Personal and cultural notions play a significant role in making us unhappy. While sorrow is often considered a ‘negative emotion’, it serves a vital role in signalling a need for comfort, especially when it comes …

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EMOTIONAL MATURITY – When and How do we achieve it?

Emotional Maturity is a personal feeling or perception: no one can tell or comprehend the other person’s maturity or level of understanding. It is a mental status achieved without any age bar. A fifty-year-old man may behave most childishly, while a sixteen-year-old lad may exhibit a different level of Emotional Maturity. Emotional Maturity liberates us …

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HABITS — Good or bad; Who decides?

A good or a bad habit depends on how it aligns with certain values, perceptions, goals and consequences. Good habits generally lead to a better quality of life. They impact personal health and hygiene, set career goals, and positively create relationships. Bad habits are addictions, interference with goals, social disrespect, and inappropriate ethical standards. They …