Who doesn’t want to stand out in the crowd?
Isn’t life all about social recognition, basking at the top and caressing at the pinnacles? Don’t we compare ourselves to the people on top and create pedestals to scale? The endeavor can be a routine one or perhaps something different from the general notion. Do we accept the mundane rat race or become someone special – a Black Sheep?
So what if the black sheep stands out amongst the hundreds of sheep with white fleece.
Why is being the black sheep considered downgrading and abusive? Black sheep is an idiom used to designate a fellow of a group or family, diverse from the rest of the population.
The poor sheep with black fleece suffers this abuse because their wool is considered less valuable since it cannot be dyed, unlike the fellow sheep with white fleece. In psychology, the ‘Black Sheep Effect’ refers to the tendency of group members to judge likable in group members more positively and deviant in group members more negatively than comparable out group members.
“I may be the black sheep of the family, but some of the white sheep aren’t as white as they try to appear.”
We live in a claustrophobic crowd of hypocrites who consider their ideals the day’s calling and social norms. Anyone going against their set norms is viewed as an outcast, rebellious, wrong or weird – The Black Sheep.
The fact is that the so-called white collared people or ‘White sheep’ are the greatest liars. Most are unreliable and have the capacity to stab you in the back. Their speeches and promises carry no meaning or weight. They are fragile with frivolous characters – stains and dirt quickly show on them, no matter how hard they try to conceal them.
The black color is original, with no stain, no change and no overpowering. Someone has rightly quoted – ‘Black is modest and arrogant at the same time. Black is lazy and easy; black is mysterious. But above all, Black says – ‘I Don’t bother you—don’t bother me.‘
History shows that the people who thwarted ordinary principles and kicked the backs of idealistic people who preached to them the way of life rose to unparalleled plinths and created priceless pedestals for themselves that changed the facade of society and the world. They were the Black Sheep who refused to fit into the wrong herd and found another black sheep to hang out with.
All the prodigious scientists, explorers, artists and even top politicians were considered the Black Sheep and laughed at and ostracized from society as eccentrics. Instead, they believed in themselves and rose against all odds, slapping the community in the face and emerging a victor.
Galileo Galilee, the “Father of science” and the most wondrous Italian physicist, astronomer and philosopher, was laughed over for being a crazy man by everyone. He was the Black Sheep and eventually proved his critics wrong and emerged as the most illustrious astronomer of all time.
In the Ramayana, Vibhishana was the Black Sheep of the family. He lived a life beyond the norms of the Lankan King Ravana. He was responsible for the final downfall of the kingdom and the destruction of the mighty, invincible Ravana. Vibhishana is considered a virtuous person in Hindu mythology because he helped the deity, Rama, get his beloved wife Seeta back. In the eyes of Ravana, he was an outrageous villain – a black sheep.
It is not embarrassing but a compliment to be called a black sheep. Some of history’s most famous families have had scandalous sons or daughters who did weird things that originated in their overactive minds, like posing naked for famous statues. They even cracked shady deals while in the business. In a toxic family system – the black sheep is often just the person who sees through everyone else’s bullshit.
“I like weird people – the black sheep, the odd ducks, the eccentricities, the loners, the lost and forgotten. More often than not, these people have the most beautiful souls.” UNKNOWN.
A ‘Black Sheep’ will –
*Refuse to exit when it can live.
*Refuse to follow where it can lead.
* Seek and embrace its true purpose.
* Live life on its own terms and rules.
* Leave footprints that change the world.
* Leave fingerprints that change history.
* Trust its internal compass and live life with courage and zest.
*Break the generational curses, guilt, shame and start a new lineage.
Are people born as Black Sheep? NO ! – Bad parenting and sibling and societal rivalries turn people astray and are later labelled Black Sheep. Parents who try to enforce ideals and force-feed their dreams onto their children ultimately lose them. Always remember that –your children don’t belong to you, you are on borrowed time with them. You need to nurture them to become better human beings – don’t try to clone them. Support and encourage them to become the best –THEM, not the mediocre YOU.
It takes a mountain of courage and an ocean of enthusiasm to traverse a unique path. Try reading the markings on the child’s forehead and respect their manifestations and emotions. Don’t panic if a different child thinks differently. You never know what an overactive and intelligent mind is cooking. He may be planning to build a bridge across the Pacific or trying to create a ladder to reach the Moon.
“The Black Sheep is usually the only one telling the truth.”