A blog by Dr. Anuj Kumar
A person who is psychologically manipulated, tortured, and emotionally abused in a relationship is a victim of GASLIGHTING. The gas lighter smartly avoids taking responsibility for his toxic behaviour by categorically and blatantly lying and denying culpable action. The sufferer has no option but to question his intellect and psyche and live with noxious guilt. …
Companionship is a feeling of fellowship or friendship. Every living being, including plants, needs it for survival and physical and emotional propagation. Is companionship the mantra to get away from loneliness? Yes, to some extent, it is valid! But should one stoop, smothering self-respect and self-worth, to be with someone else? While travelling …
I am a complete human with all shades and grades of emotions and intellect. Any relationship I delve into has to accept me as a package. I am not a gourmet menu item you can choose for your palate and whims. I can be a serene winter breeze flowing in the hill’s valleys, or the …
We are less than even the tiniest atom vis-à-vis the vast expanse of the universe — ‘Like a drop in the ocean’. So, should we accept being a non-entity and admit our existence as disgraceful? OR, we should inflate our self-esteem and welcome the fact that ‘we store an ocean within us – in …
When we think and yearn for something positive to happen, we indeed behold a negative thought by nurturing a farce expectation. Because positivity might elude us by giving us stress and yielding a negative experience. If we accept negativity gracefully, we become positive in our approach. There is affirmation and the zest to combat an …
Is growth an enigma? Is growth a sacrilege? Growth is the soul of nature and life — So is the growth of emotions, binding people to accomplish spiritual and passionate maturity. Is it my fault that my past didn’t grow and kept lynching me and pulling me back? Is it my greatest triumph that …
Why should you chase someone? Is it a pursuit of monetary gains, societal status, or emotional gratitude in a relationship? What if the chase culminates in compromising your self-respect? Rather be the catch or the prime cut. Let yourself be the flag holder with magnified self-esteem. We depend upon people, situations, and relationships throughout our …
Is CHASTITY only to practice Abstinence and take a vow of Celibacy? — Is it the self-proclaimed preaching of purity, innocence, and modesty? — Is chastity merely the forte of Yellow Saffron Sadhus, Church Persona, Monks, and Maulvis? Is chastity a strength or is it just a forced ritual to reveal a clean social …
How to define a ‘TRUE’ friendship? Is there something like ‘true’ in a relationship? Friendship in itself beholds a sea of meaning and empathy. ‘TRUE’ then just justifies the already existing understanding of human behavior in an alliance. Why are men bad at sustaining a meaningful and TRUE friendship? Are women better at keeping …
The human mind is webbed with all kinds of noise and disturbances. They affect the psyche and emotions resulting in distress and mental agony. The challenge is to survive the noise and extract the correct signal or melody that soothes the mental acumen and heart rhythm. Aren’t some relationships noisy and irritating to our …