LIVE in someone’s SHADOW . . . OR be someone’s REFLECTION.

Living in someone’s shadow implies being dominated by another person’s achievements, personality, or presence. There is a sense of inconspicuousness or undervalue because someone else is seen as more prominent or influential. This might nurture a feeling of jealousy, meagerness, or a wish to step out and be recognised for one’s own sanity and uniqueness. …

MOUNTAINS — ‘Happy’ or ‘Sad’, A perspective.

    Mountains, like all of nature, reflect the emotions we project onto them. Their soaring heights and enduring strength inspire awe and a sense of joy, resilience, and timeless wisdom. On the other hand, their silent solitude and weather-worn peaks may evoke a sense of melancholy, carrying the weight of time and the whispers …

‘MID-LIFE CRISES’ — A loss or a gain?

Midlife crises are periods of self-reflection and transition, empowering us to confront our identity and self-confidence. We grapple with the realities of ageing, mortality, and life choices. When embraced, this introspective journey can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our lives, putting us in the driver’s seat of our transformation. This usually happens …

MIGRATION – from Places and Relationships — do we need it?

Moving away, literally or metaphorically, can be vital. Migration from relationships can be a positive and necessary step when they no longer serve their purpose, become toxic, or diverge from one’s values or aspirations. While it may be painful, it creates space for healthier connections and personal growth. Migration is vital when seeking prospects, better …

chained in love, possessiveness

DETACHMENT and ATTACHMENTS. . . When and how?…..

  The word ‘detachment’ may be explained in various ways. It is a vast subject with multiple perceptions. I am talking about Detachment – Aloofness . . . indifference to worldly concerns . . . Freedom from bias or prejudice. Detachment – an Emotional Catharsis . . .Getting rid of annoyance, expectations, emotional obligations and …

INSIDE MY MOTHER’S WOMB …. An intriguing experience during an MRI test

The technician made me lay on a narrow stretcher, trussed me onto a leash and cupped my ears with overbearing heavy earplugs. Here you go – sliding deep into a long tube-like concoction, barely accommodating eighty kilos of me. All I could see was the desolate and hovering semi-circular plastic walls of the MRI machine …

COMFORT ZONE — a haven to be Smashed or Endured?

A comfort zone is a place of familiarity or solace away from anxiety, awkwardness, or frustration. It is a predictable and safe zone, a sanctuary away from intimidation, qualms, and unpleasant shocks and surprises. It’s a space that encourages tranquillity, well-being, gratification, and physical respite. People engage in familiar activities or behaviours within this zone, …

@SKELETON IN THE CLOSET

SKELETONS IN THE CLOSET – Do We Bury Them Or Feed Them?

  ‘Skeletons in the closet’ is a conversational phrase and idiom used to describe an undisclosed fact about someone that would damage the person’s perception if revealed. In other words, it is a discreditable, damaging, shameful or embarrassing fact that someone wishes to keep a secret. The phrase was coined in England in the nineteenth …

@IS BEING A BLACK SHEEP – GOOD OR BAD

BEING A BLACK SHEEP – Good or Bad?

A person seen differently as an outsider who doesn’t adapt to the potentials or norms in society or family is called a Black Sheep. The term carries a negative implication, suggesting the person is embarrassed and disapproved. However, being a black sheep can also imply distinctiveness, individuality and resistance to conventionality. Should we call such a …