Acceptance is an agreement to accept what somebody offers you or to agree to specific situations and emotional states with affirmation. A judgmental mind that evaluates everything logistically lacks keen observation and falters at understanding what’s happening, whether right or wrong, good or bad.
Acceptance is a powerful tool for building inner peace. When we accept circumstances, emotions, or outcomes as they are—without resistance—we free ourselves from unnecessary struggle and mental agony. This doesn’t mean giving up or avoiding change; it’s about recognising what we can control and letting go of what we can’t. The sooner we accept, the sooner we unlock clarity and freedom to progress, feeling liberated from the burden of resistance.
Life teaches us the harshest and most important lesson: accepting what comes next.
Following Acceptance, Awareness is the first step in constantly fluctuating life patterns.
Ashwin suffered excruciating pain in his tummy for some time. Doctors advised him to perform periodic check-ups, suspecting an occult malignancy. Ashwin had difficulty accepting the monthly test reports and suffered anxiety-filled sleepless nights imagining the worst. His life was miserable, socially disconsolate, and fraught with uncertainty and emotional ambiguity about the unforeseen. Finally, a biopsy confirmed Adenocarcinoma of the Intestine – a dreadful form of Cancer.
Awareness shifted to Acceptance. Suddenly, the obscure and foggy horizon turned to truth and factuality, making the picture loud and clear. Ashwin admitted to Mocking Black Cobra’s presence and prepared to smother it with a stick of strong affirmation and acceptance. Acceptance of his eventual death left Ashwin most at stake for the coming years, and he started living happily – for the present, not the unforeseen future. Mental chivalry and emotional boldness led to Ashwin’s acceptance, and a positive attitude was brought into the foreplay – A will to kill the poison.
There are scientific facts to prove that a Positive Attitude can cure the worst of ailments and disorders – “The Power of the Subconscious Mind” — The famous book by DR JOSEPH MURPHY.
Accepting the dark halo we live into is imperative – that’s when we toil to grow in the light. Don’t try to comprehend the origin and existence of darkness—sometimes, it is not meant to be understood but to be accepted. Being happy doesn’t mean everything is Picture-Perfect and socially flawless – we have decided to live beyond our imperfections and have joyously accepted the truth. We are confused by expecting someone to complete us – the fact is that there should be someone who will take us completely off the hook.
Acceptance provides the key to dealing with societal hullabaloo. The more we get used to people’s behaviour and deceit and accept our eventual betrayal and professional arrogance, the more content and happy we will become. For instance, when a colleague takes credit for your work, accepting the situation can free you from unnecessary stress and allow you to focus on your work instead of dwelling on the injustice.
Emotional and loving relationships pose the biggest challenge to acceptance. Life is short, and so is uncertainty in relationships. Accepting the initial thrill and declining from any relationship as inevitable leaves less filth when the love storm passes.
People who have dared to come out of the closet have built a fortress of Acceptance. The strength of their acceptance has compelled people and the world to accept their preferences and choices. The initial kickbacks are harsh and painful – but approval at a later stage has a calming effect on the relationship.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others – Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval – Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her”. LAO TZU.
People waste a significant chunk of their lives denying situations, relationships, and those around them. The time wasted must be utilised to nurture an awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses—Self-Acceptance.
Virtuous self-awareness is the approval of who you are – a question that has to be answered from within without any conditions or exemptions. The purest form of love dawns with this knowledge. Bad childhood experiences tarnish one’s attitudes and aptitudes and lower self-esteem, thus powerfully affecting self-acceptance. By accepting these experiences and their impact on your self-esteem, you can begin to heal and improve your emotional well-being.
Self-acceptance can be categorised as–
*Self-approval – to affirm action and logic.
*Self-affection – to love what you are.
*Self-kindness –to be liberal in your activities and passions.
*Self-love – to respect and lure your emotions and desires.
*Self-recognition –recognising your aptitude and intellect.
*Self-Courage – to have the courage to accept oneself despite being unacceptable to others.
* Self-confidence – to deny being exploited and diminish yourself.
With complete Acceptance comes tranquillity and salvation. So, accept this, then act. The present moment should be gratefully received not as a compulsion but as a deliberate choice. Try to work with it and not contradict it. A miraculous life transformation is sure to follow.
Acceptance of the reality of your being, existence, and circumstances bestows you with a sense of calm and peace. It allows you to focus on what you want to attract and logically charm it without the turbulence of denial or resistance. “What you resist, persists – What you accept, transforms.”
“Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance.” GAUTAM BUDDHA.
……………………………………………………….
The blog” Life is about the acceptance..The sooner we accept the faster we get free” has been nicely explained and illustrated..It is an inherent character in our nature to push the hostile situations and scenarios as long as possible,unless it becomes inevitable.. It is seen in case of Ashwin, who was been suffering from dreaded cancer. The moment he came to know about the dreadful form of the disease, his whole mind changed.His positive approach made him stronger and acceptance to the disease enthused him to fight the dreaded disease.In our day to day life also we come across different challenges.We embark on to cosy paths just to keep on pushing such situations or challenges, till they are pushed to the wall..Had we resorted to accept the reality at an early stage, we would have put our best foot forward to face the challenge or the situation we are scared of. अर्ज़ है फानूस बन के जिसकी हिफाज़त हवा करे। वो शमा किया बुझे जिसे रोशन खुदा करे।If you accept the truth, you become free from all the shackles।। मुश्किलें दिल के इरादें आजमाती हैं। स्वप्न के पर्दे, निगाहों से हटाती हैं। हो सलामत हार गिर कर ओ मुसाफ़िर , ठोकरें इंसान को चलना सिखातीं हैं।
Too good अनुज।।Nicely scripted।
Dear Ashok Bhai, you analyse my subjects so well. I thoroughly appreciate the apt verses you have put in your comments. Life is nothing but accepting the challenges with a smile on your face. It may look like a cliche– but it is not. We all have our quota of miseries and are suffering them with assertion and a positive attitude.
regards
Accepted quite happily, thanks a lot for the beautiful article…!😊
thanks a lot, bro for the compliments.
regards
Hi Doctor,
I like your post decorated with beautiful illustrations.
“Bad childhood experiences tarnish one’s attitude and aptitude and lower self-esteem, thus powerfully affecting self-acceptance.”
It is so sad that we remain confused and unhappy even as adults.
Tell me one thing …if someone keeps his money with me for a time period and later I give it back to him, will you say I have donated that money. No, it didn’t belong to me anyway, it was his and he gets it. Same is here , we are in reality atma and do not belong to this world. We are playing the role of Arjun, never give up always do the right as the situation and our capacity demands. We are here to do for others only because in true sense we cannot do anything for self. Simply because self does not belong to this world. Self is always in delight or Anand. So keeping in mind our hindu philosophy, why should we accept anything from this world.
If some demon terrifies a naive child it by his deeds , why should the child label himself adversely. All he should do is read our beautiful Hindu philosophy..
From Anand,” says the Taittiriya Upnishad, “all existences are born, by Anand they remain in being and increase, to Anand they depart.” Meaning….
Delight is existence, Delight is the secret of creation, Delight is the root of birth, Delight is the cause of remaining in existence, Delight is the end of birth and that into which creation ceases.
Knowledge or realization of self (Atmavijnana) is considered as one of the preventive measures of exogenous and endogenous disease.
These following statements bring so much confusion to me
To accept the initial thrill and then decline from any kind of relationship as inevitability leaves less filth when the love storm passes.
“What you resist, persists – What you accept . . . transforms.”
LIVING FOR THE MOMENT.
Will it not be better to believe –Yahin ka hai yahin rehne do.
Honestly I do not disregard your logic , but I wanted to put forth my opinion .
Regards RG
Hey RG
I wish that my readers do read your comments and your ideology. I am spellbound at your knowledge and examples from Gita. I had to read your views many times to understand the zest. You are right — Yahin Ka Hai, Yahin Rehane Do.
Wish someday I get the opportunity and the honour to sit with you visa vis and get the GYAN you have on life. Hope that day comes soon friend. Sure enough — Delight is existence, the secret of creation, the root of birth and …..
superb.
regards
Hi Doctor
I do not have any gyan, just broke down the simple emotion of getting depressed. We are happy beings and must always remain so. I saw Kashmir Files and was already heavy in my heart. Then read your beautiful post, could catch what you were conveying. That is all.
regards RG
RG, I admire your philosophy about life and being happy.
thanks, friend.