I often wonder how HUG came into being.
As a young boy, I visited a relative’s family in a distant town. I wanted to hug the individuals that I met. Well, that’s the culture in which I was brought up. I realised that everyone was uncomfortable with the formal Hug. They preferred, ‘namaste’ from a distance. That’s it.
I was travelling to the USA. My brother’s American friend visited us with his two small daughters. I had never seen such cute kids in my life.
As a natural instinct, I reached out to hug the two baby girls.
Well, I was later rebuked by my brother for touching the kids.
Today, I agree that there is a cultural divide in the expression of social gestures. It is a matter of personal preferences and taboos when it comes to touching a person.
Leaving aside the formal and professional meetings, I personally feel that a HUG is both very reassuring and rejuvenating in relationships.
There is a transfer of hidden chemicals and cosmic energy, that makes HUG a special gesture.
Grades and Styles of Hugging [
Grade 1…Holding the person just by the side, minimal body-contact… It is more or less a formal hug.
Grade 2… Holding the person from the front but no contact with the chest. Just a formal gesture of kissing ….mmmmmuuaah type (pouting the lips.)
Grade 3… Holding the person from the front with the body in total contact with light and formal grip.
Grade 4… Holding the person forcefully, as if the two bodies want to become one. Deep pressure on every part in contact. Depending on the passion and situation, this HUG may last for some time.
Grade 5: No description needed.
In a deep HUG, most of the sensory organs get activated thus assuring and authenticating the relationship.
The SMELL, the SOUND (if you whisper in the ears), the VISION( eye to eye deep contact), the TASTE(if you are in the grade 4 hug) and foremost the TOUCH … all are agile and meaningful.
Hence the most gratifying action that can stimulate all the senses should be respected and extended liberally, as and when needed.
Remember that there is a very strong clause called Decency and Respect.
Even a small child understands the meaning of touch and the way he is being caressed and held.
A legitimate, sensitive touch, at an appropriate time and occasion, is welcome anytime, anywhere and with anyone.
I know that there may be contradictions to my preachings.
With malice towards none, I must admit that I belong to the HUG group.
To this date, I have never been snubbed or tormented for hugging anybody … I respect the reservations.
But do think about the …’ Jadoo Ki Jhappee’… IT SURELY WORKS..!