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HEALING — Does it end with the fading of Wounds?

 

Healing does not end with the fading of physical or emotional wounds. The evident signs of recovery, like a closed wound or reduced pain, suggest that healing is complete. But that’s not true—true healing often involves more thoughtful, holistic processes.

Healing requires time, patience, and faith. The more profound the scar, the deeper the unhealed wound. But remember, healing is a process, not an event.

 

Healing is a journey, not a fixed endpoint. It encompasses growth, adaptation, and transformation, often making individuals stronger or wiser.

We mistake a scar as a healed wound. But has the wound healed? The philosophy is about emotional wounds and scars inflicted deep inside our hearts and psyche. The wounds of betrayal, loss, or rejection leave lasting, sensitive scars that are more painful and profound than those of trivial roadside or domestic accidents. These emotional wounds can also stem from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, or personal failures.

We encounter two breeds in our social circles —

*One who heals our soul by kissing our wounds and pouring love through the cracks. This is the most calming and reassuring gesture.

*One who sadistically scratches to bleed our wounds with a wincing pain and plays with our vulnerability.

 

“Time is the biggest healer of wounds” – is it a myth or a reality?

Inflicted wounds deeply hurt the human psyche. Over time, the mind grows scars over the wounds, trying to safeguard its sanity. This might lessen the pain, but the wounds survive under the scars and do not heal. Even the slightest whiff of reminiscence and instability rips open the scar’s false jacket, bleeding the vulnerable lesions.

Trying vehemently to shut the past or ignore the eventuality doesn’t work. Drowning in addictions, making fresh alliances, running after the so-called solitudes, courses-discourses, and emotional seclusions are redundant, misleading and don’t help.

Healing is a prolonged process, but it’s not a hopeless one. As RUMI rightly said – ‘let the light of faith, understanding, and acceptance enter your heart through the aperture of the wound and heal it from the inside. Once accomplished, emotional healing will not leave a scar on the outside.’

The best medicine to heal emotional wounds is forgiving those who caused the pain, believing in destiny, and accepting that few things are beyond our control. There must be an inclination to endure emotional wounds and fears; otherwise, the outlet will be closed, leading to non-healing wounds.

The invisible wounds on the body are more hurtful and psychologically spiteful than the bleeding ones. These unhealed ‘Moral Wounds’ are always tender and bleed readily when caressed. Moral wounds result from actions or decisions that go against one’s moral compass, causing guilt, shame, or regret. It takes courage and mental valour to drag out the pain’s nucleus from the open wounds and make peace with the enticing, unhappy memories and past.

 

Self-reflection and Acceptance are crucial for healing —

Self-reflection helps us understand our emotions, behaviours, and patterns, giving us insight essential for growth.

Acceptance, on the other hand, allows us to embrace our imperfections and past experiences without judgment.

Together, they resurrect a foundation for healing by fostering self-compliance, compassion and courage to move forward.

 

Human survival is a museum of time-bound scars and emotional inflictions that have changed the psychology and understanding of races and generations. By watching non-fiction films like ‘Kashmir Files — or reading literature like ‘Children of the Holocaust’ — and visiting places like ‘Jallianwala Bagh’ in Amritsar or ‘Auschwitz’s concentration camps in Poland, the scars are ripped open, and the unfathomable unhealed wounds start bleeding. They bring tears to those naïve eyes who have not experienced the past human atrocities, barbarism and genocide.

‘From every wound, there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says – I Have Survived.’

The notion behind preserving or conserving such heart-jerking literature and historical sites is that we don’t want our wounds to heal. We leave the scarred doors open to all future generations to feel the pain of the profoundly inflicted wounds.

“As the time goes on, you will understand what lasts, lasts – what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time can’t solve, you have to solve yourself.” HARUKI MURAKAMI.

 

The big questions that arise are –

*Does the sight of someone’s open wound soften our own wound’s pain?

*Does our fellow creatures’ agony and mental anguish lessen our suffering?

*Do our tears dry up, seeing those of our grieving friend?

The answer is a NO — Each has to settle his accounts and Karma, learn to cope with his grief, and shed his tears.

LOVE is a double-faced emotion, like the two sides of a coin. It inflicts the worst wounds but also has the supremacy and expressive power to heal the nastiest ones—a meaningful assurance, a warm hug, and sensitive communication can promptly heal a bleeding wound.

A competent Doctor must heal the patients’ wounds, giving a perfect scar. The lighter the scar, the more laudable the doctor’s precision and insight. The pain must be eradicated from within by assurance and faith, not by a fancy painkiller or an antibiotic.

“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion” BUDDHA.

 

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5 Comments

  1. Dr Ashok Kumar Ojha says:

    The blog “Healing doesn’t end with the fading of wounds” has been scripted and explained nicely.In fact, there are certain wounds which get healed in due course of time with proper medication, albeit leaving scars on the site.These scars too get faded away gradually over a period of time.Yes…Some scars don’t perish, nevertheless, may become blurred.I remember old classic movie Devdas in which Devdas strikes Paro with a stick on her face when she decides to get married with an elderly जमींदार …Dilip Kumar says कि इतना भी अपनी सुंदरता पर garoor नहीं होना चाहिए। जब भी तुम आईने में देखोगी तो देवदास की याद आयेगी।Such wounds are very deep.It was done with an intention.Normal wounds heal briskly whereas wounds which hurts your ego, prestige and self esteem take time to heal rather they become नासूर or an incurable wound and the pain never subsides. Whenever the right chord is struck, it begins to pain..It is not so easy to come out of emotional pains..It subsides only with time…Too good..

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      hello Ashok Bhai.. you quoted Devdaas so well. I am again impressed by your feedback and the analysis you do of my blogs. We all behold unhealed wounds in our hearts and mind. They keep showing their presence now and then. There may be grudges and there may be regrets….life goes on
      love and regards.

  2. DR ASHA KUMAR RASTOGI says:

    excellent..!

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      thanks dear….

  3. rajdeep says:

    great words said by you – LOVE is a double-faced emotion. It is like the two sides of a coin.

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