DESERVE, DESIRE, AND DESTINY – THE TRIANGLE. THE CONCEPT.

We have goals and aspirations in life. They are reflected upon by a concept, a triangle of what we ‘Deserve’, ‘Desire’, and what ‘Destiny has in store for us. These elements are interrelated based on our perceptions and beliefs. However, to achieve our desires and shape an amicable destiny, we must understand whether we genuinely …

REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY – An ‘ENIGMA’ or a ‘FACT?’

Reverse psychology is the practice of delicately encouraging a behavior or belief by promoting its opposite. It is a method of getting someone to do what one wants by pretending to dislike it or want something else. People use it liberally by manipulating relationships and emotional alliances for ulterior motives.   Ashna told her father, …

TO DESIRE ‘CALMNESS’: CALM YOUR DESIRES. Five ways to rekindle desire in relationships.

  ‘To desire’ and ‘to be calm’ may be friends when in harmony — but they are daggers-drawn foes if one supersedes the other. A fiery desire takes away the sanctity of calmness. Staying calm, content, and rejoicing all the time in a comfort zone snatches away life’s purpose to prosper, outshine, and dream. There …

‘HEDONISM’ – The Pursuit of Pleasure. Does it enslave us? FIVE WAYS TO FIGHT IT.

We seek happiness by pursuing pleasant things. We do get it, but can we sustain that happiness we envisage once we are there? NO! We cannot. The human mind has the power to adapt – joy is short-lived, and success seems futile and mundane. As a result, we begin seeking something new, and the cycle …

LIVING WITH ‘REGRETS’ or ‘GRATITUDE’ – What do we want?

Most of us live in yesteryear, making REGRET an influential tool. Our minds are relentlessly at work trying to question and analyse what we could/should have done differently. We ponder how others mistreated or victimized us. We curse our actions and our destiny for our wrongdoings. GRATITUDE is a state of being thankful to the …

‘BRASS’ screams, “LOOK, I AM GOLD” – ‘GOLD’ smiles and prefers SILENCE.

Brass tries to copy Gold’s sheen and shouts at the world, “I am gold.” This false belief system does not work — people are no fools. They understand the difference. Gold knows its worth and quietly enjoys supremacy without exaggerating its value. Human life is all about the emotional jugglery and mental complexities of Brass …

‘GASLIGHTING’ – A DARKNESS BEYOND LIGHT –Are you a sufferer? 

A person who is psychologically manipulated, tortured, and emotionally abused in a relationship is a victim of GASLIGHTING. The gas lighter smartly avoids taking responsibility for his toxic behaviour by categorically and blatantly lying and denying culpable action. The sufferer has no option but to question his intellect and psyche and live with noxious guilt. …

‘SEVEN-YEAR-ITCH’ — A FALSE BELIEF OR A FACT. Five ways to survive the itch. 

‘Seven-year-itch’ is a well-known and popular belief, with certain psychological garnishing, that happiness in a marriage or a long-term romantic alliance begins to decline after seven years of existence.   Number SEVEN- ‘7’ has a significant role in human lives — from the ‘Saat Pheraas’ to seven days a week, seven colours in the rainbow, …

IF ‘GOSSIPING’ IS YOUR FOOD – you are probably overweight!

‘Gossip’ is an intriguing word that infuses adrenaline wherever it reaches or whosoever it nurtures. A gossiper beholds extreme boredom on one hand and nasty bitterness on the other. Most people enjoy it as the best form of dialogue and communication compared to any other form of speech. Gossip is information shared about an absent …