LIVING WITH ‘REGRETS’ or ‘GRATITUDE’ – What do we want?

Most of us live in yesteryear, making REGRET an influential tool. Our minds are relentlessly at work trying to question and analyse what we could/should have done differently. We ponder how others mistreated or victimized us. We curse our actions and our destiny for our wrongdoings. GRATITUDE is a state of being thankful to the …

‘BRASS’ screams, “LOOK, I AM GOLD” – ‘GOLD’ smiles and prefers SILENCE.

Brass tries to copy Gold’s sheen and shouts at the world, “I am gold.” This false belief system does not work — people are no fools. They understand the difference. Gold knows its worth and quietly enjoys supremacy without exaggerating its value. Human life is all about the emotional jugglery and mental complexities of Brass …

‘GASLIGHTING’ – A DARKNESS BEYOND LIGHT –Are you a sufferer? 

A person who is psychologically manipulated, tortured, and emotionally abused in a relationship is a victim of GASLIGHTING. The gas lighter smartly avoids taking responsibility for his toxic behaviour by categorically and blatantly lying and denying culpable action. The sufferer has no option but to question his intellect and psyche and live with noxious guilt. …

‘SEVEN-YEAR-ITCH’ — A FALSE BELIEF OR A FACT. Five ways to survive the itch. 

‘Seven-year-itch’ is a well-known and popular belief, with certain psychological garnishing, that happiness in a marriage or a long-term romantic alliance begins to decline after seven years of existence.   Number SEVEN- ‘7’ has a significant role in human lives — from the ‘Saat Pheraas’ to seven days a week, seven colours in the rainbow, …

IF ‘GOSSIPING’ IS YOUR FOOD – you are probably overweight!

‘Gossip’ is an intriguing word that infuses adrenaline wherever it reaches or whosoever it nurtures. A gossiper beholds extreme boredom on one hand and nasty bitterness on the other. Most people enjoy it as the best form of dialogue and communication compared to any other form of speech. Gossip is information shared about an absent …

BE A ‘FLY’ ON THE WALL – Observe everything, yet stay invisible.

A common house fly is bestowed by compound eyes that comprise thousands of lenses (Mosaic vision), unlike humans’ single lenses. The fly can recognise even the slightest movement in the field. It can visualise the world by sitting in the roof corner, yet be invisible to everyone else. Do you want to be a fly? …

“JOMO” – BEHOLD THE PLEASURE OF CHOOSING WHAT TO ‘KEEP’ AND WHAT TO ‘GIVE’.

  The joys in life depend not only on getting and achieving things — Feel the joy and happiness of deliberately and consciously avoiding certain situations, people, places and relationships – ‘The joy of missing out’, JOMO. This is undoubtedly a favourable situation, unlike the antonym FOMO – ‘Fear of missing out’. During a brainstorming …

FATHOM ‘COMPANIONSHIP’ – DON’T STOOP AND COMPROMISE WHEN ‘LONELY’. 

  Companionship is a feeling of fellowship or friendship. Every living being, including plants, needs it for survival and physical and emotional propagation. Is companionship the mantra to get away from loneliness? Yes, to some extent, it is valid! But should one stoop, smothering self-respect and self-worth, to be with someone else?   While travelling …

YOU BRING OUT THE ‘BEST’ IN ME – And, ‘I LOVE YOU’. 

I am a complete human with all shades and grades of emotions and intellect. Any relationship I delve into has to accept me as a package. I am not a gourmet menu item you can choose for your palate and whims. I can be a serene winter breeze flowing in the hill’s valleys, or the …