Happiness is about comfort, cosiness and well-being. The journey may seem harsh and arduous when we are willing to be comfortable and seek comfort in uncomfortable situations, but it is a small price to pay for living a beautiful dream. Living through the most awkward moments, sometimes, life bestows the most enchanting memories.
Thinking of my most beautiful, uncomfortable moments, I am pushed back to my first year in medical college when ragging was rampant. The senior who compelled me to smoke a ‘Beedee’, screwing my lungs and instigating an asthmatic spasm, later became a bosom pal, nurturing the friendship even today after forty-five years of the nightmare.
The beautiful, uncomfortable moments in life are those unique and enchanting instances when we are staggering on the edge of our comfort zones. The combination of distress and exquisiteness creates a profound experience.
Reality is no wonder, fearsome. We tend to admonish those who point to our reality and idolise those who provide us with illusionary comfort. The more we seek out the uncomfortable, the more comfortable we will become.
‘Do not prefer a comfortable lie to the uncomfortable truth.’
Falling in love for the first time is beautiful and yet uncomfortable.
Personal growth, self-discovery, and a greater appreciation of life’s beauty are hidden in the uncomfortable moments. There is excitement and vulnerability in experiencing the rollercoaster of emotions that eventually push us to grow and understand relationships in better ways.
The first public speech, a debate, and a musical performance in front of a vast school crowd gave me goosebumps and jitters. I felt like running away, but because of my mother’s enthusiasm and pestering, I succumbed to the pressure, and today, I can cater to an enthralling audience.
Travelling overseas for the first time to a hostile country like Pakistan and landing there at midnight with no host to receive shoved me into the deep trench of depression. But later, exploring foreign lands and immersing in new cultures, though uncomfortable, pushed me out of my comfort zone, and challenging my preconceptions became my passion.
My first taste of Parenthood left me shivering on a nasty winter night outside the labour room, praying for a normal, healthy child. Those extremely uncomfortable moments became a bundle of joy and exhilaration when I held my baby girl in my lap. After thirty-five years of that experience, I am the most blessed person to have a doting daughter. Life is filled with joyful moments testing our patience and endurance.
Embracing significant life changes, like moving to a new place, shifting careers or meeting new people, is often uncomfortable but can lead to beautiful personal growth with mental and emotional transformation.
Creative and artistic expression and professional dealings can make one uncomfortable in this competitive cutthroat rat race. Though scratchy, the exposure to one’s innermost thoughts and emotions may lead to the innermost peace of accomplishment.
Seeking apologies and forgiveness through taking and giving can be profoundly uncomfortable and taxing but culminate in beautiful reconciliation and personal growth. It may take a whole world of courage and effort for a heartfelt apology to be rendered to someone, but it brings joy and emotional fulfilment once rendered.
Stepping outside your comfort zone and taking risks to pursue a dream or a goal is challenging. Still, the blessing lies in the potential rewards and personal development that evolve from the experience.
We will likely step out of our ruts and search for different or more factual answers when we are propelled by a hostile force: discomfort.
Someone rightly said, ‘I want to get more comfortable being uncomfortable. I want to get more confident being uncertain. I don’t want to shrink back just because something isn’t easy. I want to push back and make more room between I can’t and I can.’
“To be outstanding, get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”