Life & Love,Relationships

‘LOVE’… How about giving it a second chance? SHOULD WE? 


“Being someone’s first love is great, but being someone’s last love is beyond perfect,”

Is there anyone? Knock–knock — who has not fallen in Love, ever, in the sweet and chirpy teens and early adulthood?

Okay! – just infatuation?

If you say NO, then I don’t believe you.

With the surge of the first bout of Testosterone and Oestrogen: Love and infatuation creep in from the crevice of the fastened doors and settle down in the innermost heart compartment. YOU CAN’T STOP IT.

“Love is sweet when new—sweeter when true.”

The initial alliances seem like the end of the world – like, ‘Tare Tod Kar Lana types — But do they have a destiny or life? — NO—Most of them break, succumb, accede and die a natural death because of circumstances and peer pressure, career issues and mundane pursuits.

In many cases, the physiques mature, but the intellectual maturity remains in the kindergarten stage. The Valentine rhapsody soon loses its sheen and warmth, and the budding naïve relationship is sacrificed, leaving behind the filth and offensive aftermath.

The degree of burn is even more profound in those cases that enter into wedlock with the adolescent understanding of the intricacies of Love. The initial hunky-dory climate soon shows its virulent traits, and the couple finds solace in separation.

Is that the end of the world?

NO – Life gives you another chance!

Someone once said –” There is no love like the first.” It’s possible to feel the joy of true love again.”

Life always offers you a second chance because it cares for you. It’s called TOMORROW for this second chance.

Remember, good things fall apart so that better things can come together. Never drown in the dungeons of melancholy when a relationship nosedives unpredictably—the cloud soon passes by, showing a ray of brilliant sunshine.

 Don’t FALL in Love – RISE in Love. Snatch the second chance that life offers, and trust me, it turns out to be even more enriching and rejuvenating. Have the courage to trust Love one more time. The –’Doodh Kaa Jalaa’, one time will always be prudent next time and will appreciate and honour the philosophy of Love in an even healthier way.

Impatience becomes Patience, and Intolerance nosedives into Tolerance. The youthful ego also mellows to a great extent making way for a better understanding.

Love that happens in the middle ages is — like the evening glory of the setting sun—like the wet clay fragrance of the first showers of rain – like the serene boat ride in the waters of tranquillity – like meditating in the sprawling greens of the meadows.

There is no age for Love. Love is not a commodity or a birthright for youth and young people.

“No one’s ever too old for a fairy tale.” – “it’s never too late to live happily ever after.”

If Love has to happen, it will find its way, no matter what. Don’t deny or be prejudiced about it if it occurs, even at a very later stage. One day someone will be perfectly honest with you and will love you forever. So never give up trying to find that person – that person is looking for you too.

Love your age and Love being older. You may lose your looks, but you gain enormous wisdom. You may not be physically attractive from the outside, but you are more beautiful from the inside.

I know a Gentleman who at eighty, married a lady five years younger than him. There was a furore in their immediate families. No one was prepared to accept the relationship. But they sailed through and are now at the top of the world, travelling, having fun and enjoying every bit of life as it comes to them. I believe there is a platonic and emotional connection. But isn’t Love all about the spiritual connection and not the carnal desires?

“Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young.” BENJAMIN FRANKLIN.

Love your age; they say – Old enough to know better, young enough not to care and Experienced enough to do it right.

Don’t let age come in between Love and while choosing a partner. Just let it happen and welcome the change.

“Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it does not matter. SATCHEL PAIGE.




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  1. Dr Ashok Kumar Ojha. says:

    So far as love is concerned it has no limitations and barriers.Love is an instantaneous process as one fine morning one feels that he or she has fallen in love..Again as love has no barriers, one can fall in love at any stage of life, even with an elderly person..In such a case, age is just a number for falling in love..You have rightly said that during adolescence, most of have gone through this phase, whether it remained one sided affair or not..One keeps on admiring and liking to the extent that न भूख लगती है न प्यास।। you grow old and become a matured person, love means a lot at this stage..I am of the view that love follows a principle of sincerity and integrity.How much do you care for your partner that’s paramount…Before she utters a word, you are able to understand her..It gives an ecstatic and divine pleasure and is on the cloud nine in true love… In real sense, love transcends in to an iternal and divine containment the more we grow older…. Nice article Anuj..

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      What a wonderful analysis of the topic Ashok Bhai. I am thoroughly impressed by your take. Sincerity is the key to all relationships, no matter what…..” love transcends into an internal and divine containment the more we grow old..” what a thought!!
      thanks a lot for the feedback… regards

  2. Ramesh Narula says:

    2nd time is a mature decision unlike 1st time- as u have very rightly said – tare tud ker lana

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      yes sir… the second time is more matured and understanding in all ways. Thanks for your views.

  3. You are absolutely right.why take life so seriously, it is more important to have our relations in order. So if we get a second chance, must grab it.

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      yes RG . . . true. never leave a chance when it comes your way.

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