HUG A CRITIC – ‘Criticism’ is the essence of life. 

Your worth is supreme. Your attitude either makes you worth a sparkle or devalues you like a piece of stone. Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. But a meticulous rub polishes your mirror and makes you shine and gleam in glory. The rub is nothing but positive criticism from a CRITIC.

Criticism is the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. It’s the analysis and judgement of the merits and demerits of a literary or artistic work.

In daily life we encounter criticism of all kinds, coming from all corners, and from a variety of people. Criticism is like a birth right for people who don’t shy away from passing their self-proclaimed verdict on upgrading or condemning anything and everything around it

Like the two facets of a coin – Criticism can be Positive and heart-warming OR can be totally Negative with mind-boggling and undesirable vibes.


I have been doing poetry since my school days. The poems, however, never saw the light of day and instead were embalmed in the greasy pages of my diary. I begged superlative adulation when I narrated the poems after a sabbatical of more than ten years. I thought I was the best poet around – until I was cornered by a CRITIC. I was shown the mirror in a positive way. I was open and received criticism in a constructive way. My style and poetic content eventually changed for good, and I was on the right track. Thank you, Mr Critic!

The role of critics came into being around the 17th century and gained widespread recognition in the 19th and 20th centuries. Mathew Arnold (1822- 1888) the Victorian Poet and critic was the first modern critic. Literary criticism is thought to have existed as far back as the classical period – the 4th Century.

Critics play a key role in modern times in combing Theatre, Cinema, Literature and Art. Specific columns are allocated to the critics on page 3. We all see the bestowed ‘stars’, before venturing into the products and the performances. Their authenticity and critical genuineness are, however, plagued by politics, red tape and monetary remuneration.

The soul of sincere criticism is by Creation, NOT by finding faults in it. Criticism accomplishes the same purpose as pain in our bodies. It draws attention to an unhealthy state of things. As the Sun and Rain nurture the flower’s blooming, so do the criticisms and compliments.

Don’t be distracted by criticism. The only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.

Tolerance is the key to understanding criticism. If you can’t tolerate it, please don’t do anything new or exciting. Instead, one should complement a critic and hug them if possible.

Don’t be upset about the pricky thorns – Value that at least someone perceived and noticed what you did. More so, if you are not being criticised ever, then maybe you are not doing much that makes a difference. Appreciate the Aurora Borealis of criticism in the northern skies of your efforts and predicament.

There is a breed, born to find faults in whatever they can lay their paws on. At cultural functions, Mr X would sit in a corner  tooth picking his parched teeth, and utter the choicest negative comments about the stage performances. Hun! the music is rotten – Hun! the dance is wretched, etcetera. Such self-imposed critics are pathetic and are social rogues. You find them more in numbers when you look for one. ‘It’s easier to be critical than to be correct.’ People who superfluously criticise others are just unhappy about their mundane lives. They, henceforth, take the most wretched measures to make themselves feel better by criticizing and boosting their egos. They criticise things that they can’t even comprehend in the right way.

How do we deal with CRITICAL people?

* “Dil Pe Mat Le Yaar” . . . Just don’t take anything personally. Ignore it or avoid it. It’s about them, not you, friend.

*Analyse the comments – don’t think of ‘what’ is said . . . Concentrate on ‘how’ it is said.

*Comprehend the Honesty of the comment – At least he is not fake.

* Hug them for their misadventures – They need it badly.


SELF-CRITICISM: A boon and a positive endeavour.

Yes, of course, a boon, provided it is done in an optimistic and inspiring way. To achieve perfection, the mind has to constantly slog through evaluating one’s intellect and emotional acumen to reach perfection. The journey should be smooth and stress-free.

Self-criticism paves the way for improvement and progress. But if it is of a higher dimension and is mentally challenging, then it can be grossly detrimental. In excess, it can lead to depression and mental molestation. Such people find fault in themselves and develop a tendency to sulk.

Quote of the Day – “Do What! Feel in your heart to be right, for you will be criticised anyway. You will be damned if you don’t.” ELEANOR ROOSEVELT.







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  1. Aparna Poddar says:

    Criticism is awonderful tool for one’s evolution for better but yes your views are precious to understand it’s gravity and take it with tolerance

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      Thank you so much Aparna jee for your appreciation and the feedback.


    Very rightly said that criticism is an important tool for the self-improvement.

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      Thanks a lot dear for the appreciation.

  3. Dr Ashok Kumar Ojha.. says:

    The blog”Hug a critic-Criticism is the essence of life ” is a wonderful narrative. No doubt, criticism if spoken in positive sense, is likely to enhance personality of a person. However, if criticism is done in a negative sense, it may lead to a retarded growth of one’s personality. There is a thin lining between a healthy criticism and a negative criticism. One has to appreciate and accept positive criticism so that it helps in development of one’s personality and character.At the same time, negative criticism brings in depression and retardation in one’s growth.Further, negative criticism made out of jealousy and anger imperatively is dangerous.. It should be avoided. Wonderful blog Dr Anuj..

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      As a stage performer and writer I have faced positive and negative criticsm both. Life has never been a smooth ride. But sure enough, positive criticism fashioned and sculpted my creativity to a great extent. Thanks to the people who kicked me from behind to help me jump ahead, not lay flat on the road.
      Thanks for your comments. Regards.

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