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DO MAKE A ‘PROMISE’, BUT DON’T IF YOU CAN’T KEEP IT.

DO MAKE A PROMISE, BUT DON’T IF YOU CAN’T KEEP IT.

 

“Promises can be made to lull the heart and seduce the soul.”

‘PROMISE’ – To say definitively that you will or will not do something or that something will happen.

Tracking the history of committing a Promise dates back to when the Homosapien first started communicating in jargon syllables. The Promise was like an assurance of doing something.

As kindergarten kids, we may not have learned much, but “I promise you”—was the most important phrase to remember and were committed to anything and everything. The school was a good place for experimenting with all kinds of Promises and ‘KASAMS’. Everything came as an assurance that you would abide by what you say or are likely to follow. Some interesting Kasams were – ‘ Dharti Mata Ki Kasam’ – Vidya Ki Kasam’–‘Meri Kasam’ – ‘Teri Kasam’, and the most profound one was – ‘By Father’. These were self-proclaimed assertions that carried profundity and depth. For us, ‘By Father’ took on a weightage and, once accepted, was understood to be strictly followed, no matter what.

‘I SWEAR’ – is now part of the standard vocabulary that people follow in everyday conversation. How about people touching their heads, again and again, saying TOUCHWOOD – They accept that their skull is nothing but a piece of lumber.

It means that humans seek assurance in everything they do, or they don’t.

But, if you promise — you have to keep it.

 

Taking an OATH is a close cousin of the Promise.

The Oath is a solemn pledge to God, King, or another supreme person to attest to the truth of a statement or contract – A promise is an affirmation.

THE ‘OATH’ IS TO PLEDGE – ‘PROMISE’ IS TO COMMIT.

A promise is sacred and verbal– once made—should become a commitment and should not be broken.

But honestly, Promises suffer the most obnoxious brunt because they are bound to be broken. People do understand but get fascinated and allured by the Promises that the next-door politician makes each time with folded hands asking for votes at their doorstep. I needn’t mention what mayhem the Promises suffer once the elections are over (Smiles).

Promises, however, keep us moving onwards; it’s keeping us centred, genuine and optimistic. It’s tough to keep a Promise, but that should not deter one from avoiding taking it altogether.

No wonder it’s a bad thing to break a promise, but it is an even worse thing to let the Promise break you.

Bhishm Pitamah ceded his rights for his father’s happiness and took the vow of lifelong celibacy. Because of this colossal Promise, he came to be known as Bhishm and was blessed to live as long as he wanted. His Promise, however, distressed him when he couldn’t help the deplorable and emotionally desperate Draupadi during the infamous CHEERHARAN episode of Mahabharata.

 

 

The famous epic, however, is saddled with plentiful examples of vows taken and broken according to the situation and convenience.

The acid test of the promises comes in the Love Relationship, where lifelong commitments are made. It is kept or massacred—who knows?

 

The character of these lovebirds is revealed not by the promises they make, but by the promises they keep.

The ‘poetic hyperbole’ of a promise is — to get the Moon — pluck the Stars in the lady lover’s lap. Does she really want that? She just wants a promise to be with her under the Moon and the stars, FOREVER.

How many keep it – that’s another story. We see several relationships crushed to smithereens, bringing emotional turmoil to the sufferers. Young couples may have good intentions to make promises, but they need a good character to keep the commitments.

A gentleman keeps a promise, but a loser only squanders it.

 

FIVE PROMISES you should make to yourself, when in love —

 

*Be Valiant if you believe in it.

*Be Tougher than what you have seen.

*Be Cleverer than you think.

*Be Humble and trustworthy.

*Be Passionate as you reflect.

 

Besides promising to another person, certain things we promise to ourselves too. Something that no one knows.

“Promise to Mind and Heart might falter – Promise to the soul stays forever.”

“Promises can be made to lull the heart and seduce the soul.”

True promises are the ones we make to ourselves regarding our lives and our future. When broken, they devastate the soul and haunt in the silence of the sleepless nights.

It’s hard because as soon as one promises not to do something, it becomes the one thing above all others that one most wishes to do. Ask a Diabetic what it takes to discard sweets—or a chain smoker to quit smoking, etcetera. The slower the people make promises, the more faithful they prove in their performances.

 

“Broken vows are like broken mirrors. They leave those who held to them bleeding and staring at fractured images of themselves.” RICHARD PAUL EVANS.

 

The Most Romantic Promise – “I promise to plant kisses like seeds on your body, so in time you will grow to love yourself as I love you.”

 

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4 Comments

  1. Dr Ashok Kumar Ojha says:

    The blog… Do make a promise but don’t if you can’t keep…. absolutely is a thought provoking statement..If the promise is made sincerely, it will withstand all odds and shall be fulfilled.Nevetheless, cercumstances at times may deter in the accomplishment of promise as modus operandi matters a lot.Despite failure, efforts made and how sincerely they have been taken up in keeping the promise stand as a laudable and admirable initiative.I do agree that if you are unable to keep the promise, don’t make it..It may not only hurt the sentiments of the recepient but may also inflict a feeling of guilt in the person who has made it.. Nicely scripted Anuj bhai..

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      I believe that a promise made with a clear heart and emotion is kept and the person tries his best not to falter. But circumstances and situations do play a strong role and may dissuade the individual from keeping the promise. A broken promise hurts both ends.
      Thanks once again for penning down such wonderful feedback Ashok Bhai.
      regards

  2. DR ASHA KUMAR RASTOGI says:

    A very comprehensive description of promise that candidly looks promising..!

    1. Dr. Anuj says:

      Thanks a lot dear for the appreciation.

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