‘Picture-perfect’ describes something or someone that looks flawless, like an ideal image or scene. It suggests that the subject is visually appealing and without any noticeable flaws.
Is there something in this world that completely lacks any defects or flaws? Are any person, place, situation, relationship, Flora and Fauna, and even God Himself Picture-Perfect? Is Love picture-perfect? Why do we expect a relationship to be picture-perfect?
Our relentless pursuit of a ‘picture-perfect life’ often leads to disappointment and depression. The truth is, such a life is an illusion, a mirage we chase in vain.
“Maine Chand Sitaron Ki Tamanna Ki thi – Mujhko Raaton Ki Syahi Kay Siva Kuch Na Mila…” This famous melody speaks volumes about the expectations and the ensuing void and farce results.
God created the universe with perfection but faltered while creating the humans. He gave them the emotion of JEALOUSY. Today, the entire humanity is suffering physical, mental, emotional and financial anguish and predicaments due to prejudice and jealousy for each other.
So, when life is imperfect, it is clever to find perfection in small things like a warm cup of coffee in the morning, a good book, or a heartfelt conversation and envision perfect moments, which may be short-lived or fragile.
Start looking for a ‘Happy Life’ instead of pulling your scalp for a ‘Perfect Life’.
Trust me, the person who claims to be perfect isn’t natural. And if he has an honest and transparent heart, then he’s not perfect. Honesty is not about accepting yourself as ideal, but it’s about accepting one’s concealed flaws.
We were born to be GENUINE – not IDEAL.
Accepting our imperfections is the key to finding happiness. Like many, I am not perfect. I have my flaws, but I’ve learned to accept them. Life is messy, and relationships are complex. Accepting these imperfections makes life interesting and relationships meaningful.
“I am not perfect – but I am not fake either.”
Aren’t we all like that? While looking for meaningful relationships, why don’t we accept people as a package? We want only the goodies to be served. We hate people for their malice and prejudice. Life will be more accessible, and relationships will be pleasing if we accept that no one is perfect.
Life doesn’t always give us what we want. It plays funny games. I am learning to be happy. I have not achieved perfection, but I am a scholar who looks beyond imperfections. I try to make my life count and memorable. I don’t give anyone a chance to snip my joy.
We wait our entire lives for the perfect moments to happen. The moments happen, but we fail to realise it because we are confused and wait for even better things to happen. The life-long wait continues.
Would you rather live one perfect day over and over or live your life with no perfect days but just decent ones? The joy of living a life with no perfect days but just decent ones is a form of contentment.
A similar thing happens when looking for a meaningful alliance for Mr Perfect or Ms Right, the societal constructs of an ideal partner. You will find your perfect partner when you appreciate that there is no such thing. You feel alive when things and relationships are happening around you—good or bad, it doesn’t matter. Unhappiness and depression come when people think that they have to live up to perfection in a relationship. It leads to more anguish and emotional sorrow.
We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. That person is perfect or nearing perfection, who stands upright during the nastiest and most stressful times. Such a person exudes positivity and conveys assurance to the beneficiary. Emotional stability is his anchor, and perseverance is his armour. ‘A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.’ This perspective can foster a sense of empathy and understanding in our relationships.
Transformation is a process that leads toward perfection. When you feel oppressed, emotionally crushed, and engulfed in never-ending darkness, trust yourself and transform. You fall, rise, make mistakes, learn, get hurt, and are devout. You may not be perfect, but you are living—be thankful for that.
Our problems are filth and garbage stuck between our Minds and Matter channels. If we don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Remember, God has a perfect plan and purpose for our lives.
People seek perfection in Love. They say that LOVE is blind. Is it blind? NO! – Love has its eyes open – wide open.
‘Picture perfect love’ refers to a romantic relationship that seems flawless or ideal, like a beautifully composed photograph. It conveys the idea of a love that feels perfect, harmonious and without visible conflict or imperfection. This phrase evokes feelings of fairy-tale romance, where everything appears to be effortlessly beautiful and in sync between two people. However, it can also imply an idealised or unrealistic view of love, as no relationship is without its challenges in reality. It’s important to understand that love is not blind to imperfections, but rather, it sees them and accepts them.
Love is all-seeing and accepting. It works around faults and blemishes by receiving them. It identifies worries and comforts each other. It works through agony and challenges with affirmation. Love is not blind; it is understanding and accepting of imperfections.
INFATUATION is blind and fragile. It cannot stand the jolts and atrocities of the time. It shatters when Life is not perfect.
SIX ways to add an upbeat flavour and create perfection in your Life —
*Learn to let go.
*Learn to ignore things that you don’t like.
*Learn to be patient – give yourself time.
*Learn to be content – no comparison.
*Learn to stay calm and relaxed – no matter what.
*Learn to SMILE – “Aaaa..l is well.”
The most significant dent that we put into the lorry of our lives is worrying about — “What will the people say?”. The irony is that,
* At 20 – We care what everyone thinks.
*At 40 – We stop caring for what everyone says.
*At 60 – We realise no one was ever thinking about us in the first place.
Don’t get jealous or confused by seeing a broad smile on your friend’s face—he is also fighting for perfection in his Life. A smile doesn’t always represent a perfect life. A smile can be a humble response to jubilation- how nicely the imperfection has been conquered.
Having said everything, the ultimate truth is the individual’s perception of being happy and understanding of a perfect life. Perfection is in our thought process and how we deal with the imperfections in our lives. Life goes on, and so does the permutation of happiness and remorse. We must heal ourselves by looking beyond the precipice of self-created flaws and glitches.
The rule of thumb is –
Remember that you can choose your direction when nothing seems’ RIGHT’. You can always ‘GO LEFT’ and forge your path.
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